Wednesday, December 9, 2009

“Parental Alienation” the Phrase Women Love to Hate

“Parental Alienation” the Phrase Women Love to Hate

By penumbrook

Google has a methodology to it’s search engines. Accumulate data, then see what the data says.

For too long, women’s victims’ advocates have been using phrases like 1 in 4 women will be victims of abuse in their lifetimes. Well. Maybe. But, women are as likely to commit domestic violence as men and the same statistic would hold true for men.

Parental Alienation is a term that describes what happens when one parent badmouths the child’s other parent during the course of a divorce and the child custody / visitation years that follow. Most people have PA moments when they can’t help but think of abusive situations and make derogatory a comment about them.

When our children are in the line of fire, in ear-shot of our comments, they are also being hit with these bullets. Cumulatively, the demeanor and honesty of the offending parent is going to impact upon the child.

An honest parent who encourages a relationship with the non-custodial parent is going to foster love and care in a way that goes beyond the cumulative effects of their honesty. A parent who cannot be honest, but chooses to be decietful to the child is going to have a long-term negative impact upon the child’s ability to form relationships with others.

Their target, the non-custodial parent, may be defeated in the courts. But the child will be defeated in life.

The number of children subjected to bouts of PA are increasing globally. And some educators, universities, even governments are starting to take note of the instances of divorce and its correlation to PA.

As the data accumulates, it is likely that we will see an increase in the number of PA influenced children who have difficulty with their own lives. Some will react through depression. Some through aggressiveness in all their relationships. And some, God help them, through acts of domestic violence that they learned from the alienating parent.

Whether or not PA is recognized as a syndrome, our children will suffer. And the data will accumulate.

One day, I hope, we may look at words like “sole custody,” “non-custodial parent,” and “visitation” as words of domestic abuse that demean our children and make their world an emptier place.

Perhaps, we will be able to Google it or look it up on Wikipedia.

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